an open letter to anyone who has ever hurt me, to anyone i have hurt, and a lesson of forgiveness




To anyone who has ever hurt me, whether it be last week or 10 years ago.

It might have just been a word you called me. A rumor you started about me. Hurting another one of my friends. The hurt you have caused me is different for everyone.

Sadly, it happens to the best of us. I wish I could say I have never hurt anyone, but I am a human. I say things when I am mad or just not having a good day.


To anyone who has ever hurt me, whether it be over a fight or just a random occurrence.

I believe I have lost sleep over you.

Looking up at my ceiling, thinking of all the things that went wrong.

I think about things you said, things I said. My mind is racing. I toss and turn, throwing blankets off of me and pillows on the floor. I can’t get comfortable, the sheep won’t help me on this night.

You might think I am exaggerating, I wish I could confirm your suspicions. This happened to me so many times in middle school, when I would just think about all the things people would call me. It happens to me now, not as often. That still doesn’t replace the fact.

To anyone who has ever hurt me, whether it be intentional or not.

You must understand, I am sensitive and fragile.

I take things to heart.

I blame myself for a lot of things.

When I come to you to apologize, please understand that I am not meaning to sound selfish, I am just owning up to my mistakes, even if none were made in my name.


To Anyone I Have Ever Hurt

I can’t apologize enough. There is no excuse for hurting a close friend, or anyone in that matter. I love you, and I hope you are doing well. I hope nobody hurts you as much as I may have hurt you.


To anyone who has ever hurt me, on any occasion…

I forgive you, my friend.

Despite the word ‘hurt’, I forgive you. Treat others how you want to be treated. Forgiveness is never easy. Our pride gets in the way too easily and our stubbornness forbids us to act on the urge to forgive and apologize.


  • Galatians 6:1 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.
  • Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.


  • “Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.” ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr


  • “Forgiveness is not always that easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” ~Marianne Williamson


Y’all, the basic thing of this post is to  forgive. I know it’s hard, being hurt is one of the worst emotions there is. I went almost all of my life without forgiving my birth mom for all the things she has put our family through. However, if I wouldn’t have put my hurt and trust issues away, I wouldn’t have been able to be a part of my beautiful baby sister’s life. (Love you, E)


Forgiveness is easier said than done, it is something to lead yourself up to, but I promise that in the long run, you will feel so much better. I love y’all longtime. Thanks for putting up with my terrible time management skills. Here’s to spring break and posts hopefully every day!!!




je bent geliefd. 

(You are loved)







2 thoughts on “an open letter to anyone who has ever hurt me, to anyone i have hurt, and a lesson of forgiveness

  1. Mary Helen says:

    You are beauty, encouragement, and joy all smashed up into one loving human! I love you always and miss you unimaginably! *kissy face emojis*


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